How to Begin Practicing Quiet Time 

Prayer is when you talk to Gd & Meditation is when you listen

Recently I have begun a daily practice of 2 Way Prayer.  As I have shared, I am finding it to be a very peaceful and healing experience.

The Drop & ripple effect

What I am finding even more remarkable is that suddenly, my inner work is manifesting outwardly. I am experiencing my own personal ripple effect. 

Several seemingly random events have occurred recently. Shortly after I started practicing 2 Way Prayer, someone just “happened” to send me a copy of How to Begin Practicing Quiet Time, posted below.

Then, without any effort on my part, several people have asked me to practice 2 Way Prayer and share written guidance with them.

After the third person asked me in 1 week, I thought it might be a good idea to post a copy of the email I received on how to begin practicing quiet time.

I think that there is a quiet groundswell of interest in this practice, and people are thirsty for what it has to offer. People want to learn it, but, they don’t know how or where to start.

I want to share my personal experience with this practice so far.

In the early days of program, the pioneers would practice 2 Way Prayer in a group. I am beginning to understand why.

In the brief time that I have been practicing 2 Way Prayer, in my experience, this is not a solitary practice that can be done in isolation. I find it invaluable to practice and share any guidance received with another person who is also practicing 2 Way Prayer.

Although this blog is intended to document how to work a program of recovery, in my experience, words are insufficient to transmit a spiritual experience. Find a group of like minded people. Next, practice, practice and practice!

There is no limit to spiritual growth and more will be revealed.

So, here is it:

How to Begin Practicing Quiet Time

(An updated version of the How to Listen to God pamphlet written for those in recovery)

By: Bill W. (and tiny edits by Shira)


Commit to practicing Quiet Time for a minimum of 10 to 20 minutes daily for 30 days.

Practice it each morning. If necessary, get up earlier.

If, for any reason you miss a morning, do not become distressed. Simply begin counting the 30-day period over again!

The likelihood is, once to do this for 30 days in a row, you will want to make it a practice for the rest of your life.


Choose a sacred space – a quiet place where you can be alone. It should be comfortable and inviting. Reserve it only for prayer, if at all possible.


Have a pen or pencil.

Buy a notebook to write down your thoughts – have it ready when you begin.


Sit in an upright posture. Remember into whose Presence you are entering.

Read a short passage from inspirational or spiritual literature.

Breathe deeply 2 or 3 times – let go of all tension and worry with each outward breath. (Add any other relaxation techniques, prayers, petitions or practices you find helpful.)

Write a question. A very honest question that captures your real need. If you have a problem that’s troubling you where you really need God’s guidance, write it out and ask.

Here are some examples:

God, I’ve tried getting clean and sober before – please tell me what I need to do that’s different this time. (If you’re already sober, look at other addictions or behaviors in your life that have you stuck and ask for guidance with them.)

Heavenly Father, I feel so alone and separated from You and from others, please help me feel Your presence.

God, I’m withdrawing / isolating again – moving further away from my spouse (or my child). Please tell me what to do.

My Creator, I need your guidance today as I face _______. Please show me the way so I can do Your will.

Notice the different names being used for God. Choose the name that feels right for you. If you are struggling to find a name, start with “Unknown God” or “God, if you’re there” or “Ribono shel Olam” or “Papa,” or “HaShem” or “Bhagavan” or “Ma”.

LISTEN FOR GOD’S VOICE, with your pen & notebook in hand.

If the connection isn’t immediate and words do not come into your mind, use your active imagination, especially when you’re first making conscious contact: Say to yourself, “If God were to speak to me this is what he might say: ______________________”

Write the words that come into your mind. Try not to edit them. Only listen and write. (If words come that you think are not from God write them down anyway. Put them in brackets if you like and try to re-focus on listening for God’s Voice. In time, you will come to distinguish God’s Voice more clearly from the voices of the ego.)

If stuck, write your own name or write, “My child” or “My precious” or some other term of endearment that a loving Father-Mother God might use when speaking to you.

  • Stop writing when it becomes strained.
  • Feel the closeness of God as you experience conscious contact.

Following your Guidance:

  • Share your writings weekly with a sponsor or with another individual who is also practicing Quiet Time. You may find that their writings contain some particular spiritual guidance for you or yours for them.
  • Check your guidance. Does it pass the test: is it Honest, Pure, Unselfish and Loving?
  • Act on your guidance – but only if it passes the test – and if it is a major move, check it with others who are also listening to God.

silence & healing


Dr. Bob and the Good Old-Timers tells of the 1938 report Frank Amos sent to John D. Rockefeller after studying the new A.A. movement. Amos reported “The A.A. members of that time did not consider meetings necessary to maintain sobriety. They were simply ‘desirable.’ Morning devotion and ‘quiet time,’ however, were musts.” (p.136)

Bill Wilson: “I sort of always felt that something was lost from A.A. when we stopped emphasizing the morning meditation.” Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers (p. 178)

In Dr. Bob’s last major talk in Detroit, Michigan in 1948, he identified some of the spiritual principles that kept him and other A.A. Pioneers sober: “We were convinced that the answer to our problems was in the Good Book. To some of us older ones, the parts that we found absolutely essential “The Four Absolutes, as we called them, were the only yardsticks we had in the early days, before the Steps. I think the Absolutes still hold good and can be extremely helpful. I have found at times that a question arises, and I want to do the right thing, but the answer is not obvious; almost always, if I measure my decision carefully by the yardsticks of absolute honesty, absolute unselfishness, absolute purity, and absolute love, and it checks up pretty well with those four, then my answer can’t be very far out of the way….”

The Big Book 11th Step instructions encourages us to “…ask God to direct our thinking” and that “we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought….What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration. We will come to rely upon it.” (Big Book p. 87)

A FINAL NOTE: Sometimes people ask me, “How do you know it’s really God’s Voice you’re hearing? How do you know it’s not just you?”

My answer is that I really don’t know – and in the end, it really doesn’t matter. If it’s me, it’s the best part of me I’ve ever found and it’s the part I need to start listening to more and more. It’s the small, still Voice that quiets the raucous “ego voices” of guilt and shame, anger and fear, addiction and destruction. Those are voices I’ve known and listened to all of my life.

At 20 years sober, it was time for a major change to my program and not just a little tweaking around the edges. What I discovered was yet another Promise of the Big Book coming true: “When we drew near to Him He discloses Himself to us!” (Big Book p. 57)

Additional References:

Here is How to Practice Two Way Prayer with Shira’s tiny edits as a PDF

For more information, please see this page on the blog. Bill W. has a site with detailed information on 2 Way Prayer.

Here is the link to the meeting that we had on 2 Way Prayer:

11/18/2018 #100 Step 11 TWP

Here is a link to a MP3 of Bill W. speaking on 2 Way Prayer.

Here is another link to a series of MP3s by Father Bill on the origins of recovery and the practice of prayer and meditation.

I highly recommend them!

I am hoping that posting this will be in alignment with God’s will for each and every one of us, and enable us all to grow in understanding and effectiveness.

In love & service,


Western Mediation & how to do quiet time


  1. I love this. Not sure why, but it brings me to tears. I’ll share it with someone and ask if they want to do it with me.

    I’ve done similar before when writing/dialoguing so to speak with god.

    How do you know it is god? Asides for that you don’t, we’re all part of the same source (my chosen word until I’ve completely worked through letting go of the negativity I was raised with)/consciousness of the world. The energy that created the world we’re a part of. And being a part of, connected, constantly, means that it makes sense we can tune in to what that consciousness wants for/from us if we just open ourselves to it.
    I was listening to a class on prophecy by R’ Yitzchok Berkowitz (jewish philosophy maybe #17) and it was interesting to me how all he said aligned with my conclusions/beliefs.

    Take care of yourself!

    Love, light, and glitter

    • Where do you live? Please email me. Perhaps we could work something out? This is VERY powerful. It has truly changed my life. Otherwise, listen to some of the recordings posted, and explore. It is a very flexible and adaptable technique for getting in touch with if nothing else, your deepest intuitive self. However, I believe that if we set our intentions to align ourselves to God, as we understand Him, we will be let to Him. He wants us to seek Him out and have a relationship with us. Be blessed. Shira

  2. Shira,
    This is exactly what I need to do right now. I just “happened upon your post and read it and read it again and I knew I had to ask Gd to help me be loving and kind to that person who has hurt me. By way of this practice, those words, I came back to my loving self and stepped out of hurt and vulnerability and blame. As long as I invite Gd into my space the hurt my outer protective covering falls off of my shoulders and I am warmed as if by a camp fire.
    I need to keep the invitation ongoing because there are a few good people who are depositing their muck around me and on top of me as they sometimes go about life unconsciously.

    I must ask Gd to sit tight with me until I can sit in silence and breathe in my fresh air and breathe out their sadness, their brokenness until I can look at them with open eyes and a soft heart.

    Feel free to reach out if you wish.

    • Dearest Chavi:

      What a beautiful response! It is so true that when we tune in and listen to the “still small voice inside” we connect to our Creator on a very deep and intuitive level.

      It starts with setting our intentions, quieting our thoughts (the voice of our ego), and taking the time to truly listen to God and connect to Him.

      The beauty of writing down our thoughts, is that then we have a written record to remember what God has communicated to us and we can keep track of if and when we have obeyed and followed His directions for us.

      The spiritual life is not a theory – we have to live it, one day at a time.

      Over and over again in my 2WP, God repeatedly says to me: “Be silent. The healing is in the silence. Pause and breathe. It is in between the breaths that I can be found. I am the Force that breathes you.”

      Now, I try to take the time to pause and pray before taking any actions. I also pray and meditate on whatever comes to me when I do my daily inventory. This way, I can continue to seek to do God’s will in all my actions, and not be a slave to my ego and my self-seeking and selfish drives.

      I am not perfect. This is truly a journey. But, I am finding it to be one of the most healing practices and tools in my life right now.

      Please keep in touch. It was so nice to hear from you!

      Many blessings for recovery and peace,

  3. I will definitely listen to this! The truth is that I so badly wanted to meditate and was embarrassed to ask how. I just “imagined” and I basically do same!! I also do some stretches to “inhale” so to speak Hashem. WIth my hands and my head sort of embrace. I am very lucky. My window faces the east river and I live on the sixth floor. I always watch sunrise if I can help it. Friday nights I watch sunset. The magic I feel each time is unbelievable. I write in my 11th about “what I could have done better” I do voice what I hope Hashem will help me with My “partner” who receives my 11s. always comments or wishes me well. Many times, not all But many times I have heard back from people I would try to reach just by hoping in my 11. I am not a prophet nor is my partner a predictor. But many times miracles occur that way. I will listen to the mp3 perhaps tomorrow. Thank you Shira!!!

    • I love to watch the sun rise too. I also love the specialness of “morning time” when I get up before dawn and watch the rest of the world slowly awaken and start their day. There is a lot of flexibility and room for creativity with this practice. I believe that the secret is to let God into your heart and ask Him to direct you.

  4. Thanks Shira. Very helpful. I used to do this with a partner every day and I remember it being very effective. Maybe I will pick it up again.
    Thanks doll. Hope you’re well.

    Sent from my iPhone

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