Five Maintenance Components of Step 10

Five Maintenance Components (Step 10)

This is something that I came across that I thought might add to our discussion on Step 10:

As I continue to take a daily personal inventory of myself, I first consider my relationship with God. Am I still yielding my will to His? Do I still trust Him enough to surrender myself to Him in the moment of temptation?

Then I must consider my human relationships. Is there anyone whom I have wronged that I’ve not made amends to? If so, not only do I need to pursue the making of amends, but it’s also helpful to try to identify why I did that. Are my basic needs, as a human being not being met?

The book, “Serenity, A Companion for Twelve Step Recovery” identifies five components (starting on page 67) of this ongoing recovery process:

1) Are my basic human need for love, acceptance, and security being met? And do I even recognize those needs?

2) What are my feelings? Am I hiding feelings of grief that need to be expressed? Am I having feelings of rejection? I especially need to watch for feelings of resentment because “resentment covers anger, anger covers hurt, hurt usually covers fear, and … the deepest fear is that our basic human needs are not going to be met.”

3) Am I using any codependent and/or addictive means of trying to get my needs met? Am I manipulative or over controlling? Am I perfectionistic or compulsive? Am I playing the martyr or the victim in sick relationships? Am I trying to “rescue” or enable other people’s sick behaviors? If I’m doing any of these, I need to consider what personal needs am I trying to meet by these bogus means?

4) Am I holding appropriate boundaries and am I respecting the boundaries of others? There is a delicate line between being too rigid and keeping people out when needed. It’s also a delicate line between being too fragile and letting people into my life as needed. Can I say yes when I should say yes, and say no when I should say no? And, do I respect other’s yeses and noes regarding their boundaries? If I’ve violated boundaries, I need to make amends, where possible.

5) Do I admit my wrongs promptly? If not, the temptation is to rationalize my wrongs. If I do that, these may become resentments against others which will likely sabotage my recovery.

More => http://j.mp/Step-10 SidsRecovery.org

http://www.milkmanscircle.net/milkmanssoberliving/node/8225

As with everything: “take what you want and leave the rest….”
Enjoy!

With blessings for peace and recovery,

Shira

https://emotionalsobrietyandfood.com/

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