Meeting Summaries 2019

1/6/2019 #107. This week we read and discussed the book You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. up to 62:0.

The information was so rich that we decided that next week, we will all pick a section that we like and share on it.

Going forward, we will not read necessarily read a whole chapter each week but pause at each subchapter and open the group up for sharing before continuing with the rest of the chapter.

1/13/2019 # 108. This week, we reviewed and discussed what we read last week in the book You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. up to 62:0.

1/20/2019 #109. This week we read and discussed the book You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. up to 74:Responding. We discussed communication: different levels of communication and negative ways of reacting when emotionally triggered by another person.

1/27/2019 #110. This week we read 2 handouts on Crosstalk and getting the most out of meetings. We discussed changing the group format to prevent crosstalk and encourage open-minded discussions.

2/3/2019 #111. This week we read and discussed the book You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. up to 80:0.  We discussed more basic communication techniques: responding, validation, active listening, feedback by paraphrasing, the role of silence and the formula:

I feel ____________ (state your feelings, not your thoughts.)

When you do _____________ (don’t be judgemental or sarcastic.)

In such and such a situation ____________ (give a precise time and place.)

We also read the handout recommended from last week on Taking Suggestions by Jeremy B.

Next week, we will continue with the book.

2/10/2019 #112  This week we read and discussed the book You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. up to 96-0.  The topic was “Motivation.”

Notes from the author: Nothing is more destructive to living a life of emotional independence that being a victim of one’s resentments.

When we play the role of victim, we do not have to take responsibility for our feelings and we spiritually chain ourselves to the person we feel victimized by.

My favorite quote: “My life is my responsibility. The circumstances of my life do not determine the quality of my life; the quality of my life is determined by my reaction to circumstances.” (87-1)

2/17/2019 #113  This week we read and discussed the book You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. up to 112-0. The topic was techniques to maintain emotional sobriety.

Notes:

Acceptance is ultimately the answer. My emotions do not have to be dependent on others.

What is the goal? Is the goal to get the other to admit they are wrong and you are right? Or, is your goal simply to feel better?

Pray and ask for guidance, and be clear about your motive and leave the results up to God.

Live the program, not the problem.

3 Questions:

Is it important? Is there anything I can do about it? Is it any of my business?

2/24/2019 #114. This week we read and discussed the book You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. up to 129-0.  The topic was “More techniques” to practice emotional independence.

3/4/2019 #115. This week we read and discussed the book You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. up to 148-0.  The topic was “Still More,” techniques” to practice emotional independence.

3/10/2019 #116. This week, we completed our discussion on the book You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. up to 148-0.  The topic was “Love and service” and that the primary emotions that drive us are “love” or “fear.”

Next week we will begin Step 12.

We will be reading and discussing:the AA Big Book, the stories in the AA Big Book, the OA 12 & 12, and Unpopular Studies In The Last Three Steps.

If there is interest, I would also like to include The Little Red Book.

We will read only from 1 book at a time, and when we complete one section, we will read from the stories in the AA Big Book before moving onto the next source of literature.

So far, everyone seemed to really enjoy You Can’t Make Me Angry (YCMMA) by Dr. Paul O. and 1 person requested that we read it again as a group.

3/17/2019 #117. This is the link to the mp3. This week, we read and discussed 2 stories  out of the AA Big Book:  We read A Vision of Recovery and Gutter Bravado.

Next week we will begin our study of Step 12. We will start with reading out of the AA Big Book.

Here is the link to the page on the blog of the various documents on Step 12.

3/24/2019 #118. This is the link to the mp3. This week, we read and discussed Chapter 7 Working with Others in the AA Big Book.

Next week, we will read Step 12 in the Little Red Book. (Each word is linked to a different online site if you would like to buy the book. Here is a pdf of the chapter.

3/31/2019 #119. This is the link to the mp3. This week, we read and discussed Step 12 from the book  written by Lawrie C. Next week we will continue reading on Step 12 and some of his comments on “carrying the message” pages 66-78. I would like us to skip certain sections, as appropriate.

After that, we will read Step 12 in the Little Red Book. (Each word is linked to a different online site if you would like to buy the book. Here is a pdf of the chapter.

Do we want to cancel our meeting cancelled on 4/21/2019 & 4/28/2019 in observance of Passover & Easter? Next week, we can discuss it.

4/7/2019 #120. This is the link to the mp3. This week, we continued reading and discussing Step 12 from the book  written by Lawrie C up to page 70 #10. Next week we will continue reading on Step 12 and some of his comments on “carrying the message” pages 70-78. I would like us to skip certain sections, as appropriate.

Lawrie mentioned the importance of doing a group inventory (each word is to a different link to the same information) to assess “How well is our group carrying the message of recovery?”

We agreed that we would like to do this exercise as a group.

At what point during our study of Step 12 would we like to do this?

As a group, we will read Step 12 in the Little Red Book. (Each word is linked to a different online site if you would like to buy the book. Here is a pdf of the chapter.

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4/14/2019 #121. This is the link to the mp3. This week, we continued reading and discussing Step 12 from the book  written by Lawrie C. up to page 73: “amends to self.”

NEXT WEEK, April 21st, OUR MEETING IS CANCELLED.

Our homework for the next 2 weeks is to write on:

How do you define the God of your understanding?

What is the difference between religion and spirituality?

Can you be a religious person without being spiritual or spiritual person without having a particular religious faith?

The following week, April 28th, we will have an off topic meeting as many people are unable to attend.

I would like us to read and discuss a very interesting article that I have wanted us to read for a long time: GRESHAM’S LAW & ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS HOW DO YOU WANT YOUR CUP OF TEA? STRONG? – MEDIUM? – WEAK?

Lawrie mentioned the importance of doing a group inventory (each word is to a different link to the same information) to assess “How well is our group carrying the message of recovery?”

We agreed that we would like to do this exercise as a group once we complete Step 12.

4/28/2019 #122. This is the link to the mp3. This week was an off-topic meeting.  We read and discussed the article GRESHAM’S LAW & ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS HOW DO YOU WANT YOUR CUP OF TEA? STRONG? – MEDIUM? – WEAK?

Our question for homework is: Can you be a religious person without being spiritual or spiritual person without having a particular religious faith?

Next week, we will continue reading and discussing Step 12 from the book  written by Lawrie C. continuing where we left off on page 73: “amends to self.”

5/5/2019 #123. This is the link to the mp3. This week, we continued reading and discussing Step 12 from the book  written by Lawrie C. up to page 75: “Service.”

We read and discussed the homework questions:

  • How do you define the God of your understanding?
  • What is the difference between religion and spirituality?
  • Can you be a religious person without being spiritual or spiritual person without having a particular religious faith?

We read and discussed the homework questions:

  • Amends to yourself?
  • The difference between Step 10 and Step 11 and
  • “If you are not a normal weight, are you credible?”

5-12-2019 #123. This is the link to the mp3. This week, we continued reading and discussing Step 12 from the book  written by Lawrie C. up to page 77: “How to talk to someone who is still suffering.”

We read and discussed:

  • The issue of service
  • Constantly judged in meetings because of weight
  • The importance of face to face meetings

After we complete that section, we will read Step 12 in the Little Red Book. (Each word is linked to a different online site if you would like to buy the book. Here is a pdf of the chapter.

5-19-2019 #125. This is the link to the mp3. This week, we completed Step 12 from the book  written by Lawrie C. (The first link is to the main website, the second link is a direct link to the pdf of his book).

After that, we began reading Step 12 in the Little Red Book. (Each word is linked to a different online site if you would like to buy the book.) Here is a pdf of the chapter.

We read and discussed the following questions on a spiritual awakening:

  1. Did you have a spiritual awakening?
  2. Was it vital to your recovery?
  3. When did it take place?
  4. Can you define it?

As a reminder: we will be reading next from the OA 12 & 12, and after that, we will read and discuss Step 12 in the Unpopular Studies In The Last Three Steps.

We will conclude our workshop by doing a group inventory (each word is to a different link to the same information) to assess “How well is our group carrying the message of recovery?”

As a group, we will also need to decide: do we want to start another ES&F Step Study Workshop? If so, what would we like to use as a guide for our format?

If we decide to do the steps again, I would love to use this wonderful document on taking a sponsee through the steps: A Step by Step Guide for Sponsors: A Companion to AA Big Book and 12 Steps and 12 Traditions.

More will be revealed!