As we enter the final part of our emotional sobriety workshop I thought I would share something that I found on sponsorship and being a sponsor.
Twelve Steps of a Sponsor
- I will not help you stay and wallow in limbo.
- I will help you grow, to become more productive, by your definition.
- I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more excited, less sensitive, more free to continue becoming the authority of your own living.
- I cannot give you your dreams or “fix you up” simply because I cannot.
- I cannot give you growth or grow for you. You must grow for yourself, by facing reality, grim as it may be at times.
- I cannot take away your loneliness our pain.
- I cannot sense your world for you, evaluate your goals, or tell you what is best for you in your world; you have your own world.
- I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of not growing.
- I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend; yet, I cannot get close to you when you choose not to grow.
- When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I begin to lose trust in you, then I am toxic, bad and inhibiting for you and you for me.
- You must know- my help is conditional. I will be there with you, hanging in there with you, as long as I continue to get even the slightest hints that you are trying to grow.
- If you can accept all of this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what God meant us to be, mature adults, leaving childishness forever to little children.