Today, we discussed the definition of Emotional Sobriety.
Emotional Sobriety consists of 3 components: resiliency, wisdom and balance.
It is the outcome of living in recovery and acquired through abstinence, developing our relationship with God, as we understand Him and practicing these principles in all our affairs.
Resiliency comes with time, practice and guidance. Meditation can be the most useful tool in developing resiliency because over time, it enables us to be proactive rather than reactive to our feelings and thoughts and ultimately actions. In short, it enables us to live life on life’s terms, rather than our own self-will run riot.
Wisdom is acquired through experience and perspective. No one can teach us wisdom. It is the outcome of the sum total of all our experiences from the challenges and vicissitudes in recovery and life in general. Recovery is a journey, not a destination. We never arrive and as we say in the rooms: progress not perfection.
The last component of emotional sobriety is balance. As addicts, this can often be our greatest challenge. Balance is a moment by moment effort, acquired when we learn to be moderate in all areas of our life, not just in our case with the food. When we learn how to recover to live, not live to recover.
In short, emotional sobriety is living in Steps 10, 11 and 12, one day at a time.