Step 2: How Do I Want My God To Be?

step-2-hope Step 2: How Do I Want My God To Be?

In Step 2, we are faced with the task of coming to believe in a Power greater than ourselves who can and will restore us to sanity. When we work a spiritual program of recovery, we consciously and actively attempt to become part of something bigger, greater and more powerful than we are on our own.

In order to have a relationship with God, we each need to know what qualities we need God to have in order to have faith in Him. What is our conception of who God is based on our own personal experiences?

Here is a wonderful exercise on what qualities we need God to have for us.

Below are the questions and each of our individual answers.

If you were to become paralyzed and had to hire someone to take care of you, what qualities would you want them to have? (Write these down)


You are about to be born and the stork turns to you and asks how would you like your mother to treat you (take care of me, teach me right from wrong, etc.) – what qualities would you want her to have? (loving, caring, kind, etc.)(Write these down)


Then the stork asks about your father. How would you like your father to treat you? What qualities would you want him to have? (i.e., protecting, strong, etc.) Write these down.


Now, think about how this world was created. What qualities do you think this power, thing or person had in order to do this? (All powerful, capable of doing anything, etc.) Write these down.


Use whatever qualities from above that you would like your Higher Power to have in order to define your concept of a Higher Power.


This is now your own personal description of your personal Higher Power. In addition, the qualities are accessible and attainable, since we all can be caregivers, parents and creators of our own world.


As it says in the AA Big Book:

55:2     Actually we were fooling ourselves, for deep down in every man, woman, and child, is the fundamental idea of God. It may be obscured by calamity, by pomp, by worship of other things, but in some form   or other it is there. For faith in a Power greater than ourselves, and miraculous demonstrations of that power in human lives, are facts as old as man himself.


55:3     We finally saw that faith in some kind of God was a part of our make-up, just as much as the feeling we have for a friend. Sometimes we had to search fearlessly, but He was there. He was as much a fact as we were. We found the Great Reality deep down within us. In the last analysis it is only there that He may be found. It was so with us.


Please try this out and share your answers with the group. It is a very simple and powerful exercise.

In love and service,





  1. Shira, This is brilliant! You give me so much! I wish you a sweet and satisfying year with a much lighter load than last year’s.

    Ken is home from the hospital and in a week or so I’ll get back to my routine including US!

    Meanwhile, I’m abstinent and doing some reading and writing and one group meeting a week….. I miss you and send love and gratitude, Susan


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