Unselfishness Inventory
What does it look like in your life when you are absolutely unselfish?
Write out a vision for yourself…….
These are my questions:
Removing “you” and “your” self-interest from the equation altogether, ask your “self”:
What are my motives?
How will this action/inaction affect the other person?
Is this self-serving or to serve others?
Will anyone be hurt by this?
What do you do in your daily life to demonstrate your unselfishness?
When I am unselfish, I look to be of service to others.
When I am unselfish, I focus on giving to others rather than getting.
When I am unselfish, I am compassionate and sensitive to the suffering of others.
When I am unselfish, I seek to be loving, tolerant, patient, kind forgiving.
When I am unselfish, I look for the good in others.
When I am unselfish, I practice being grateful for everything I have.
When I am unselfish I am willing to inconvenience myself to help another person.
When I am unselfish I am willing to let others’ needs be satisfied before my wants.
When I am unselfish I am willing to help another person without waiting to be asked.
When I am unselfish I am willing to consider the greater good, rather than the ego-centric good.
When I am unselfish I am willing to take pleasure in the happiness of others.
When I am unselfish, I try to see things from another person’s point of view.
When I am unselfish, I don’t make myself the center of things.
When I am unselfish, I do my best.
When I am unselfish, I do not make assumptions about other people’s behavior or motives.
When I am unselfish, I am respectful to others – sensitive to their feelings and honor.
When I am unselfish, I am polite.
When I am unselfish, I practice acceptance.
When I am unselfish, I practice letting go.
When I am unselfish, I am willing to compromise.
When I am unselfish, I apologize when I am wrong and admit my mistakes.
When I am unselfish, I share what I have.
When I am unselfish, I listen to others.
When I am unselfish, I am empathetic, and try to see things from the other person’s point of view.
When I am unselfish, I do for others without an expectation of getting something in return.
When I am unselfish, I am considerate of others.
When I am unselfish, I do what needs to get done, not only what I feel like doing.
When I am unselfish, I take an interest in other people and what is going on in their life.
When I am unselfish, I consider how my actions will affect another person.
When I am unselfish, I am reliable.
When I am unselfish, I clean up after myself.
When I am unselfish, I feel that the rules apply to me and to other people.
References:
AA Big Book: look at How it works
Step_4_Four_Absolutes_Inventory
Central Bulletin 1944. The publication is available from Silkworth.net, but you will have to search the site on your own, since the links over time are often not active.
http://www.ehow.com/info_8140283_signs-selfishness.html
http://forum.wordreference.com/threads/unselfish-selfless.416366/
http://thinkingincommunity.blogspot.com/2010/01/selfless-vs-unselfish.html?m=1
Click to access THE%20FOUR%20ABSOLUTES.pdf
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globalchangeteachings.org/index.php/archives/40
au.af.mil/au/awc/awcgate/usmc/leadership_traits.htm
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Absolutely terrific – I could read your writings all day.
Thank you Devorah for your kind words of support! Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow!